Why do girls go for the bad guys?

     Women love a challenge. They also love a man with a great amount of confidence. They like guys who go their own way and do their own thing. They like their man to not care about what other people think about them. They value strength—they like to know their man will protect them in a dangerous situation. While everyone is different, these are some of things that women are drawn toward. Unfortunately, many guys who exhibit these characteristics can take them to the extreme and be self-centered, demanding, and even abusive.

      Some women have been beaten down so much they feel they only deserve an abusive guy.

     But on the other hand, from some female’s perspectives, many “nice” guys can appear to be boring and uninteresting. They are not a challenge. They are easy to figure out, easy to trust, easy to understand. Not a bad thing at all, but it doesn’t challenge a woman to get closer. The answer, if you’re one of the “nice” guys, is not to get mean or careless. But you will increase your attractiveness to some women by increasing the confidence you have in yourself. Move confidently toward the things you are interested in, and excel at those things. Remember, the more confident you become, the more attractive you are.

     Still, some women are confused by the drama of an abusive relationship. Growing up in a dysfunctional home, that’s all they’ve ever known. Some have been beaten down so much they feel they only deserve an abusive guy. That is why you will see some girls keep going back to the same cruel, controlling, obsessive, and yes, abusive guy. It’s sad, but the best thing you can do is be kind to these needy girls. And stick to dating healthy girls who will respect the fact that you respect them.